My life as a young girl was very different to the life my daughter has had. My daughter is now fifteen and when I look back at her life I am not sure that I have raised her the right way. But I am consoled by the fact that the problem is not only with my daughter but it is prevalent in most of the children of the modern generation.
While growing up, I spent much of my time with my mother. Being a girl meant helping out in household chores. As such, my sisters and I were many times indoors helping our mom while my brothers were usually help my dad in masculine, usually outdoor, chores.
We would be assigned chores such as cleaning the house, washing clothes, washing the dishes, dusting the house, and cooking. Many times the duties were divided with each one doing her own part since when we did the work as a group we often ended up doing shoddy work. Allotting each of us their own responsibilities was my mother’s way of singling each one of us for praise or reprimand for work done. As such, we grew up to be very adept at house work.
Looking at my daughter, I have not been able to replicate my upbringing with her. I have been a working mum and as such I have not been able to coach and train her properly on all the household tasks. I have had a help in the house who was responsible for handling all the household tasks and obviously she couldn’t also train my daughter on house hold fundamentals.
The little knowledge or skills that my daughter has on household stuff is whatever she has gathered through her own interest. For example, as a little girl my daughter was fascinated by blenders and she would ask the house help to let her do the blending. Through this interest, she learnt how to blend food. However, I could not allow her to use the immersion blenders until she was much older since I found them rather dangerous for a young kid.
This is another thing that stands out as a major difference between the way I was raised and how I have raised my daughter. Whereas we were using knives chopping up vegetables while still very young, I could not allow my daughter to use knives and other appliances until she was much older.
For example, when growing up we were using open gas burners to cook our food as very young girls but I could not allow my daughter to even use the electric cookers to cook food until she was much older. The only equipment I comfortably let my daughter use was the electric water heater or the rice cooker which were all automatic appliances that are very safe to use.
Due to the upbringing that I have given my daughter, I am not sure that she is ready to manage all the responsibilities of a home. It is fortunate that today there are many technological advances that have led to the invention of many appliances that make household work easy.